Comments on Putting the FUN in DysFUNctional: Wicked Stepmother, Circa 2009

GREAT post!

2009-11-13T04:35:07.944-05:00

GREAT post!

I think this is a fantastic post with a very impor...

2009-11-13T00:45:54.565-05:00

I think this is a fantastic post with a very important point.
I have found, though, that it tends to be the parents that haven't hit that age yet, or childless people that tend to judge the harshest. I make my son sit down in stores as a timeout. He does it. and he gets up and is in a better mood. But I have gotten some stares, and overheard some "I can't believe she is making him sit on that filthy floor. what a b...." But that same person would have something else to say if he was still running up and down the aisles.

Three cheers for you sticking to your guns and bei...

2009-11-12T03:23:55.177-05:00

Three cheers for you sticking to your guns and being a responsible parent! It's not easy, but it sounds like you're doing it well, and Andrew and your other kids are lucky to have such an attentive parent.

It sounds like you have a handle on everything.......

2009-11-12T00:37:01.711-05:00

It sounds like you have a handle on everything....way so more than I do with my kids!!

Thanks for the reminder to not sit in judgement of other parents. It's so true....they have no clue what you've been through!!

Sounds like you're doing a great job! Step re...

2009-11-11T23:22:18.384-05:00

Sounds like you're doing a great job! Step relationships can be tricky for sure, without worrying about what others might be thinking.

Oh I was the step mom once too, and I agree, other...

2009-11-11T17:47:35.994-05:00

Oh I was the step mom once too, and I agree, others can be so harsh having never walked in your shoes and everything is easier said than done! Good for you for keeping him on the straight and narrow!

I completely agree with you. It is not our place ...

2009-11-11T11:23:36.803-05:00

I completely agree with you. It is not our place to judge a punishment. We should trust that other parents know what they are doing too. Who are we to know whether its the first or 145623 time that the kid has been told not to do something?!

I never even realized you were Andrew's step m...

2009-11-11T10:44:00.660-05:00

I never even realized you were Andrew's step mom. I always thought you were his mom, period. You're so good with Andrew! I agree with you whole heartenedly. I don't believe people should judge after only seeing 5 minutes of your life. I don't believe people should be judging at all, it's not our job. I have a disability myself, and I have many issues of people doing that to me, so I "get" it.

It is so true. Seeing a few moments of mayhem at t...

2009-11-11T10:06:47.637-05:00

It is so true. Seeing a few moments of mayhem at the store, supermarket, or where ever in public is usually a poor indication of how a parent and child are usually.

I love that you posted about this. I know so many of us have felt those stares, those judging shakes of the head along the sidelines.

Oh sweetie - i am SO MUCH MORE LIKELY to judge the...

2009-11-11T09:57:04.673-05:00

Oh sweetie - i am SO MUCH MORE LIKELY to judge the parent who's letting their kid run amouk (amok??) than someone who's actually showing DISCIPLINE AND CONSEQUENCES!!!!!

Being a step parent isn't easy. I know that I have those challenges ahead of me, and it won't be easy. I admire you GREATLY!!!!

at any kid-oriented function there is always the p...

2009-11-11T09:38:20.127-05:00

at any kid-oriented function there is always the parent that has a monster child and DOES NOTHING and comments to me how well behaved my children are. really? you could have this too...set boundaries, follow through, remain consistent. don't make ME look after YOUR kid.

you're doing a good job with andrew...whether he is your stepson, nephew, grandson, neighbor, etc.

so not hard!! My children have the exact same rule...

2009-11-11T09:34:08.824-05:00

so not hard!! My children have the exact same rules!! Bring your own toys so there are no issues, do not go anywhere where my eyes do not see you(this applies to everyplace we go) and never touch other kids. My son also has touching issues - he is SI - have you guys looked into that??

I so agree and I don't judge because you never...

2009-11-11T09:02:58.327-05:00

I so agree and I don't judge because you never know what's come before the "evil" punishment. I hate that people are so judgemental when it comes to child-rearing. We all do things differently and it's not a crime if someone doesn't do it the same way as you. I don't think you sound like an evil stepmother at all, you're love for him is obvious to me!

I am never too quick too judge those that actually...

2009-11-11T08:24:45.601-05:00

I am never too quick too judge those that actually discipline their kids (unless its physically) but more so the parents that don't do anything at all and let their children run all over the place! Can't stand that!

it sounds like youre doing a wonderful job. ive le...

2009-11-11T08:05:02.038-05:00

it sounds like youre doing a wonderful job.
ive learned to try to not judge other parents. the only time i do pass judgement is when a parent is doing nothing.

I completely understand this! If you don't mak...

2009-11-11T07:18:49.563-05:00

I completely understand this!
If you don't make them mind ALL the time, they will not mind at all.

I have the same exact "sentence" when we...

2009-11-11T06:21:43.820-05:00

I have the same exact "sentence" when we all go to my hubby's softball games!

I totally hear you... I for one hate it when paren...

2009-11-11T05:26:58.551-05:00

I totally hear you... I for one hate it when parents DONT discipline their children. I may seem like a tough mom especially when we are out...but my kids mind & listen to me..
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2009-11-11T05:19:01.739-05:00

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